The Basic Conflict Between Expectations And Reality in Tarot Reading

Many clients of Tarot readers, being people after all, are committed Queens of Denial. Part of the evidence for this is the tendency to look backwards on what happened as a kind of unavoidable accident—or part of their ever-mutating plan (of endlessly failing). In either case, the Queen will demand that she is not at fault. Either she is overwhelmed by cruel enemies (and that could just be true), or she is mired in the back of the very slow boat, going nowhere, but at least Denial looks pretty much the same no matter where you go. It looks like everything is OK, and it's going to be OK. Maybe not so much in reality though.
Here is the basic problem in Tarot reading. If you are going to read the cards as they lay, which is to say you are committed to reading the cards and not the client, you will run into an objection: what if the reading contradicts the expectations of the querent (client)? And what if the contradiction is so complete, it offends the idea the querent has of what is possible?

Now, in a cold-reading situation, where the reader is definitely assessing, with an eye to affirming, the feelings of the querent, no such contradiction will be encountered, because good reading principles in that case plainly state: reject what is likely to challenge or offend the expectations and desires of the querent. Otherwise, one risks losing that person as a customer.

For example, in the latter situation, where a cold reading and an affirming reading, of the querent is the ideal, and say the querent has asked about their financial future—when will they be rich and comfortable they ask—not only do you, as the querent-affirming reader, provide a prediction of when this shall happen—likely much sooner than later—but it never even occurs to you to suggest to the person that maybe they never will be financially so well off that they are comfortable. For one thing, what a depressing thought! That years of struggle has resulted in the need for years of more struggle—and then they die. You sure as hell do not want to deliver that message.

Unless of course your interest is in reading cards instead of people.

Yes, it would be nice if most people could rightly look forward to a betterment of their condition. It would be just so much easier to read those kinds of futures. But those are not the majority or anything like the majority of human experiences. Even in the West, we still have millions upon millions of people who struggle to make ends meet, who struggle to navigate the waters of romance, who further struggle to make their marriages work, and who struggle to gain an understanding of their place in the universe (assuming such a thing is real and can be figured out).

At best, a Tarot reading provides guidance to such people to make course corrections. Generally, these corrections will be small and incremental. But over time they can build up and amount to the difference between getting there and failure. Even in the best case, with the vast majority of people, the best case enables a lightening of the loads struggling people bear.

But what about people who, in most areas of their lives, are not struggling? For example, what of someone whose financial situation is solid, but who has trouble with interpersonal relationships. When will they finally connect with the right people they ask. The problem of course may not be that there are few right people to connect to. The problem may be that the querent herself lacks the skills or the motivation to connect. Or she expects others to do most of the work. And the cards—if they work at all—ought to show this. But how many readers really have the courage to say to a querent: damn, if you would just stop being such an awful bitch to everyone, people might like you better.

Any readers who have been at it for a while, and who have any skill, have encountered the client who simply denies the indications of the cards, even though the cards clearly show the situation the client has described. Denial is a serious problem in clients, because 1. the client is announcing they are resisting your counsel (not necessarily always a bad thing, but certainly a bad thing if the reader is right) 2. the client may be living in total denial—in which case providing any assistance to them is going to be pretty difficult.

In consideration of this difficulty, we should note that most of humanity lives in a constant state of denial of reality. Republicans, for example, redefine "science" to mean "what the Bible says" so that climate change is a hoax. And all manner of self-delusions of lesser consequence confront a reader every day.

One should be prepared for this. How? Look for silver linings. No, you won't ever be comfortable financially—but you won't be homeless either. Yay!! And yeah, those silver linings may be of little solace to people whose sense of entitlement is so exaggeratedly absurd they cannot imagine anything bad—i.e. "normal"—happening to them.

At that point, there is a helpful attitude to adopt as a reader, and as I have said:

I read their cards. They live their lives.

There is only so much you can do for your clients, but what you owe them is, to the best of your ability—tell them the truth

Good luck out there.

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